Married People with Separate Monies

[Hendre]

Hello; Yes one of many. I doubt that any two people will mesh and be compatible on everything. Many of the things that do not mesh will not be of much importance and can be part of a reasonable give and take. One likes classical while the other like rock, no big deal except for opera.
Some things are, or should be, deal breakers. Children or no children, religion, drug addiction perhaps including tobacco and alcohol, and being married and living in a parents basement are a few. Such things need to be examined closely and not glossed over.
I know how easy it is to not look beyond the good stuff in a relationship because I have done that very thing. You are in love and do not really see the stumbling blocks for what they actually are. If you do not take a look at these things until after the "I do's" then it is kinda late. looking back on my two marriages I can see that the signs I ignored were around, I just did no pay attention.

Very good points there

I have lots of time to think of these things at least, I don't want to be one of those people that marries straight out of highschool with their partner. Blind thing to do IMO.

TBH I think living with someone for a good time should come before marraige, and let that be the final nail of the house of the relationship, not the walls holding it up

 

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we have one account, the wife is the free spender per-say, when she over spends I with hold sex. KIDING!!!! hey im a guy. so we all know that is bull manure.

any ways wife pays the bills, long as I get mine and bills paid, I stay out of it.
we both work full time careers.

 

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far as separate accounts? maybe if you have no kids or plan to be fine. once you have kids, and expenses that come with it, being a family, then its important to present your selves as a united front that works and shares responsibility including financial.

 

[PYRU]

My current wife I have no problems. We communicate anything of x amount we talk about.

Now my ex went through over 100k within a year on nonsense. Hid credit cards that still come out of blue and hit me. Separate accounts really don't matter. If your married it's half hers without a prenup. She can steal your account book and deplete whatever she wants without any legal consequences.

You can puff your chest out all you want it's still both your $$ no matter if the account is in your name or not.

 

[Atfownz]

Good luck thinking your money is fully yours once you get married without a prenup. Shes entitled to half regardless after the moment you two signed those docs.

 

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you married Atfownz?