If you live in an area where the mineral content is low(soft water) then its very common for a sudden Ph crash especially when feeding heavily as we do with our rays.You never mentioned checking the Ph? the obvious is often overlooked in cases like this. My water is soft, I use coral gravel to keep it buffered in between water changes, I have lost many a good ray in my early learning days due to this common problem (Ph crash).
The first sign of Ph crash is a loss of appetite, secondly you will notice accelerated respiration (spiracles beating fast), the ray will also become inactive during this time........did you notice any of these signs?
If left for more than a day in this state the results are hard to reverse.
It is true that many fish can tolerate high nitrate(N03) if exposed to it gradually but like I mentioned before if your water is soft to start with there are less minerals, minerals are used up in the nitrification process hence a sudden Ph crash, people in hard water areas can go longer in between water changes without noticing they have very high nitrate, unfortunately many of us only check levels once its too late.
Sorry to hear of your loss.