Ok small update on the lil guy, unfortunetly it turns out i was remineralizing my r/o water incorrectly! hes been sitting in the corner of the tank all week just moveing to eat food, and like fully grey insead of black so stress colours. I tested the water and the bloody tank was 8.2ph. I was remineralizing r/o water for his water changes with seachem equilbrium and seachem alkaline buffer for the kh. I would do the water test kit tests on it and it would say in the barrel 7.3ph and 3 kdh. Which is perfect right? but then the water in the tank was massivly higher ph like 8.3. So some talking with chat gpt turned out some wierd stuff about co2 and the ph appearing lower in a stagnant barrel but when put in a tank with air stones and flow, the ph shoots up. So im now mixing into the r/o water for water changes acid buffer too, and have managed to find a stable 4-5kh 5gdh and 7ph mixture. That should be more resistant too ph swings from things like aeration. It was quite a big jump going from 8ph to 7ph but in actual fact hes been the most active and the most coloured hes been in weeks today. So i think it was the right move. Hes moveing about, looking less pale. I feel awful, really hope this hasnt perimantly effected his growth or stunted him or something like that. Poor guy!