well...its not all bad news when your other half doesnt like fish...my bf used to hate them and used to think i was silly for loving fish but i didnt push him, i just let him come round and see the fish i keep and my common plec got all friendly with him lol so i let him have the common and he bought a big tank...now he has a saltwater tank (that was recent, probably two weeks ago) and is upset because his madarin goby is sick but will not do any research himself, he wants me to do it all for him....i was like "err...i dont think so...do it yourself?!!!" so...dont give up hope but put some nice fish in there that you know she will like and pretend its hers, give it a name or something lol.