so confused....

[nativelover]

OK.

so theres this girl (ya i know, you just said "here we go.."). Shes a cool girl, i like bein with her, aww what the hell, i like her...

but she has a BF... thats not the problem though (i can fix that). her BF is like BiPolar... one day hes nice to her the next he beats her up... wtf?

today was thier 10 month anniversary...(i guess )... so i go to her house and im there for about 3 hours. after awhile she had to get ready to go to a movie with him so im just hangin out while she gets ready, he calls and starts making threats (about me, cause i was going to give her a ride to the theater cause his dumbass don't drive). well she covered it up that i wasn't there and i was only comming to get her around 4... he subsides, for a little bit. then starts yelling at her and saying hes gunna break both my legs and such (ya right...whats he thinking )... this is where i we start talkin about it (me and her, not him) and it turns out he still ( i say still cause he did it back in Jan... she said she didnt want him there and he showed up at her house...) beats her up when he has these mood swings. the back of her leg is bruised and her knee cap has a deep black mark on it, plus her back is bruised from being pushed into a wall... i ask her why she puts up with it and all i get is "its complicated"...ended up driving her to the mall to meet him but never saw him.

well, thats most of the story... besides having to hide in the bathroom from her parents and squeeze out of a 12" x 20" window, then jump off a two story roof...onto the drive way...

anyways... ill be with her next weekend..but what does "complicated mean"?

if i was in that situation id break it off, and in my situation, if i see him im going to want to kick his ass... (yes i know, its not worth it, but the urge is there)...

what would you do?

 

[phantoms]

id call the cops. if she wont do it, do it for her. also, start carrying a bat around in your car. if he ever comes at you while you are out, egg him on a little so he makes the first move, then pull out the bat and break both his kneecaps. self defense right? the girl might hate you, but in the end you have to do whats best for her even if that means not seeing her again. or having her be mad at you for a while. sad thing is that most women in this situation once they get out of it always end up with another guy that treats her just like this guy. this guy has her manipulated and afraid. she probably thinks she isnt worthy of no one else because of him. thats why she stays

 

[azfishfool]

honestly been in some stupid but similar situations and honestly i dont get it, what i can tell you is i would stick with it( call me crazy but i have a habit of being the hero type) Ive been with my girl 2 and a half years. girls tend to seem like they need to be there for the guy thats treating them like crap. not sure why but it seems the worse the guy is the more the girl feels a need to be with them.

 

[phantoms]

i wouldnt be surprised if shes been abused in past relationships or by a family member when younger

 

[azfishfool]

phantoms logic is likely true about how she feels ect. wouldnt do the bat thing but thats me, im also a big guy 6'1 255.

 

[nativelover]

ehh, im 6'7" 230.... thats why i laughed when he said he was going to bust my legs... almost got us caught.

 

[phantoms]

phantoms logic is likely true about how she feels ect. wouldnt do the bat thing but thats me, im also a big guy 6'1 255.

maybe a driver? lol guys like this just need to be beaten and dragged out back and shot. they are garbage. i could never hit a woman. not even defending myself do i think i could hit a woman. its just not right.

 

[phantoms]

ehh, im 6'7" 230.... thats why i laughed when he said he was going to bust my legs... almost got us caught.

lol, im only 5'9" and 185. i'll take the bat!

 

[azfishfool]

no hitting women not ok in my book either by any means. not a huge fighter myself as i havent needed to be ever. i donno i would stick with her but thats just my character

 

[nativelover]

maybe a driver? lol guys like this just need to be beaten and dragged out back and shot. they are garbage. i could never hit a woman. not even defending myself do i think i could hit a woman. its just not right.

ya.. i got into it with my dad for just pushing my stepmom... my whole family and everyone in my apartment complex know where i stand. (shoulda told that story in here)