Spanking Linked to Mental Illness, Says Study
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Almost impossible. LOL.
I think, mixing foreign culture w/attempts @humor.
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I'm trying to err on the side of kindness. It feels awful to find out afterwards, that I blasted someone who couldn't help themselves.
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I thought that too at first til the post about the sexual needs of a father in law with Alzheimer's
beex is funny.
I know not the trolling whereof you speak. LOL.
..musta been before I posted, when all I did was search threads for real knowledge ;-)
Agreed. More often than not I see A holes who need or needed to be spanked, alot of times with the people who should of been doing the spanking, which to me makes them more of an a hole.
Agree with what you stated Fatcat. I didn't like to get my butt whooped, BUT if I did something wrong obviously I deserved it. I honestly can say I didnt get spanked, I got WHOOPED and there is a difference. When I was young (5-7) it was a thin paddle, once I hit 8 it was my dads belt. My mom, whipped me with Switches.
To this day my mother apologizes to me claiming "I beat your @ss" I explain, "Mom, I wouldn't be the person I am today if I didnt get punished for my wrong doings" I love both my parents deeply. I have the same belt my father spanked me with when I was a kid.
Looking back, I was only spanked once out of Anger and I actually understand now that I am an adult. I wanted this COOL bike
My father already worked a full time job, and this bike was pretty pricey for the time 300$ '85 maybe. So dad picked up a paper route to buy me this bike (for christmas) but the rule was is that it comes inside every night. Well one day I was in a hurry to get to the skating rink and I left it outside and someone stole it. That was the worse @ss beating I ever received. I told this story to my Daughter (then 9) when I bought her the new Ipod Touch.
Sweet Wheels, Dude!
A few questions and comments:
1. In regards to, I didn't like to get my butt whooped, BUT if I did something wrong obviously I deserved it.
Dont be so hard on yourself. After all, you were just a kid. If your mom is apologizing to you now for how far she took it, have you considered that perhaps you truly did not deserve it? What did you do to deserve getting hit with switches? (what are switches?)
2. Do you believe that your father whooping you for leaving your bike outside was necessary? Was the "lesson" not already learned by the fact that some low-life thief had made off with your cherished bike? I'm curious what it is you now understand about that experience as an adult?
3. Telling your daughter the story of how your dad beat you out of anger when you left your bike out was that supposed to put the "fear of (enter choice of deity here) in her?" Did you tell her this story so that she would know her fate if she were to lose her IPOD or have it stolen? Making it clear that if she were to lose the item it would not be replaced would suffice. The threat of violence as a consequence of losing something valuable or an item that you cherish seems a bit overboard and irrational. Would your wife beat you if you misplaced your wallet?
4. I was doing my best to stay out of this thread, but I couldn't help myself- you sound eerily similar to my pops in some of the things you write- not a compliment. Next time you grab your fathers belt (BTW- that's strange that you hold onto that, like some sort of weird memento or family heirloom that you now use to hit your kids) pause for a moment to think about whether or not you are acting out of anger. If you are masking your inability to control yourself with the notion that you are disciplining your child for misbehavior, then its you who needs the disciplining. The way you proclaim, "They are mine" and "you're mine" make it seem as if you take pleasure in inflicting pain and it makes it appear you are trying to be some sort of tough guy. Hitting a kid doesn't make you tough. Give it some thought. If I am mistaken on all counts, I apologize for the rant. I have no children, so feel free to disregard my post entirely.
...perhaps all the corporal punishment advocates are right...since I don't have children, I have no idea how hard it is to keep my hands/belts/paddles/switches off of them.
LOL, if can pause, then not very angry and opponent know have more buttons to push. Better to pretend furious and act "flying flipped lid" crazy when actually not too upset, to see tricks opponent has hiding in sleeves.
