The single biggest regret in my life...
- Thread starter Redearsunfish
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I see it as a wide group of people , some have it worse then others and would love to have a stable life. In 99% of threads you will see both sides.
While Redearsunfish is upset by the thread, I find it useful to see other opinons both good... and bad. While my 'life story' was negative. It wasn't meant to upset anyone.
While Redearsunfish is upset by the thread, I find it useful to see other opinons both good... and bad. While my 'life story' was negative. It wasn't meant to upset anyone.
I personally found this post to be very brave and honest. My hat is off to you. You do what you have to do to provide for your family. You just also feel that there is more out there. I don't see anything wrong with that. My previous post was just acknowledging that things can also be seen in a different light which you also pointed out. I apologize if it was taken the wrong way.
I too like this thread. To the OP...you aren't alone in your thoughts either. Posts like this come up all the time. We have an interesting hobby that has no boundaries with sparking new interest. The lounge is full of threads inquiring about careers within the hobby, but it always comes down to the issue of money. And the answer is always don't quit your day job...or face drastic lifestyle changes.
Everyone who keeps fish has or had similar thoughts at some point and very few act on it.
Everyone who keeps fish has or had similar thoughts at some point and very few act on it.
I like my job, it's can be a downright beach some days but it's always interesting. I won't be at this job forever, but it works for now.
Being nice is usually
Not being truthful.
If you want me to lie to you its not going to happen.
Also if you were wanting me to fill sorry for another man that
is growing older
is in seemingly good health (good enough to hold a job)
has been blessed multiple times with children
has a well paying job that takes good care of a multiple offspring family
has a good marriage.
That also is not going to happen.
If you need a hug and a pat on your back for reassurance, then get off the internet and talk to your spouse more often.
Not being truthful.
If you want me to lie to you its not going to happen.
Also if you were wanting me to fill sorry for another man that
is growing older
is in seemingly good health (good enough to hold a job)
has been blessed multiple times with children
has a well paying job that takes good care of a multiple offspring family
has a good marriage.
That also is not going to happen.
If you need a hug and a pat on your back for reassurance, then get off the internet and talk to your spouse more often.
If you need a hug and a pat on your back for reassurance, then get off the internet and talk to your spouse more often.
i havent had a problem with that. im doing something i already love, which is forensic pathology. and i love fish too sooo im just keeping fish 
can't you get a job in a profession that pays well but that you're equally passionate about? there are so many jobs out there which you could either study to qualify for and get well paid. life doesnt only have to be one choice only does it? look around 
can't you get a job in a profession that pays well but that you're equally passionate about? there are so many jobs out there which you could either study to qualify for and get well paid. life doesnt only have to be one choice only does it? look around i think this is a great post- and something that most everyone is confronted with in life. im glad you posted this. i am 33, almost 34. i am currently a fulltime RN student. just yesterday my husband and i were driving in town to go get groceries, and while sitting in the car throwing a pity party in my head for one about how i hate a certain nursing professor, i saw a homeless man walking by with a worn out bicycle and all of his worldly possessions in the wire basket in the front of it.
it immediately made me think "stop it.. just stop doing this to yourself Melissa" and i thought of how he didnt choose to be in that situation. it also made me think that life is short. and that me whining about bombing last weeks test wasnt as life altering as i was making it.
are you interested in going back to school just one class.. or two? i do go to school with women and men in their 50's and older-who are gaining second careers at this stage in the game. its never too late. look at what you do have in life so far-a loving wife, kid (or kids) who are healthy, a home, possessions- and you arent worried about how to feed your family tomorrow.
find another way to fulfill your life-explore forgotten hobbies.start exercising with the family-bike riding, walking, and you need to communicate your feelings to your wife.. shes your best friend, right? she would want to know whats going on in your head and maybe help you find another outlet.
.....my original dream was to never be an RN, but an Egyptiologist that specialized in ancient art. i keep that interest still.. and sometimes lament on it. but its just not suitable to my life.
it immediately made me think "stop it.. just stop doing this to yourself Melissa" and i thought of how he didnt choose to be in that situation. it also made me think that life is short. and that me whining about bombing last weeks test wasnt as life altering as i was making it.
are you interested in going back to school just one class.. or two? i do go to school with women and men in their 50's and older-who are gaining second careers at this stage in the game. its never too late. look at what you do have in life so far-a loving wife, kid (or kids) who are healthy, a home, possessions- and you arent worried about how to feed your family tomorrow.
find another way to fulfill your life-explore forgotten hobbies.start exercising with the family-bike riding, walking, and you need to communicate your feelings to your wife.. shes your best friend, right? she would want to know whats going on in your head and maybe help you find another outlet.
.....my original dream was to never be an RN, but an Egyptiologist that specialized in ancient art. i keep that interest still.. and sometimes lament on it. but its just not suitable to my life.
