women vs fish tanks

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If my woman whines about my tank, I'll find another woman. lotsa whipped fishkeepers on mfk. haha, sorry guys
 
negative_tea;4783573; said:
Do you take the lady out? Us girls have a personal love for being able to get dressed up and hang on a guys arm while other men check us out. It's a sickness... (One that most women would never admit.) It's hardwired into us, makes us feel wanted, and is at least half of the reason why we have so many homosapiens on this planet. You should take the girl dancing or something once a week (I'm sure that there are plenty of places to get down in Costa Rica!). If you just give the chick a bit of time for her look smoking on a date she will feel more confident because she will feel like she has made you the envy of all the other men on the island.

It might not work immediately but you just wait she will simmer down about the jealousy.
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Thanks for your advise, but putting your amazing geographic knowledge aside, you're just assuming about my relationship. I do go out with my gf. I'e never meant to say she get mad at me or anything, its just that she rather have me giving her attention than to my fish.

Also, you just confirmed my first post that women seek attention, and just happens that when my fish are getting it instead of her, she lets me know it. I never mean to say that I had any relationship problems.
 
I can relate to this. Keeping a fish tank up is alot of work. For a man that like his fish hes constantly gonna try to better the tank. Men think constructively. A lot of women seem to get mad over mens hobbies because it takes some attention away from the woman. I go through this constantly with mine. All my fish are aggressive and require alot of water changes. But its getting thrown in my face more than i like and probably gonna end up in me finding some1 else soon
 
Wow, I must be one of the few lucky ones lol. My boyfriend and I have a 150gal in the living room, and we both spend money on it, and I help him clean it and take care of it. I'm sure he would be happier if I left that to him though, and only fed the fish:grinyes:
 
I do all of the time but its never enough it seems. Mine just gets pissed that i have a hobbie. Who knows
 
I got kinda offended when my ex came over and totally ignored my fish aquariums :( I was a little sad she didn't care for em. Future girlfriend must LOVE fishies!
 
negative_tea;4783486; said:
Nothing worse than sitting in a room with someone unable to say anything because you have spent so much time together that anything you would talk about is irrelevant because they experienced it with you.
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I'd say there's nothing better than being so in touch with each other that nothing NEEDS to be said. Comfort and peace in quiet is the hardest thing to build in a relationship.

If you can't share a room with someone without feeling the need to make meaningless conversation, it's probably not a good relationship.
 
My issues have always been centered around the amount of $$$ I blow on the fish. I spend more on my fish than I ever hope to spend on a lady. It may be selfish, but it's my hobby, my relaxation, and ultimately MY MONEY.
 
dlobom;4783643; said:
Thanks for your advise, but putting your amazing geographic knowledge aside, you're just assuming about my relationship. I do go out with my gf.

Also, you just confirmed my first post that women seek attention, and just happens that when my fish are getting it instead of her, she lets me know it. I never mean to say that I had any relationship problems.
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Sorry...geography is in no way a strong point for me. Me saying "the island" there was based on the fact that my mother goes to Costa Rica four times a year and she always stays on an island...I guess I assumed based off that one reference that Costa Rica was a series of islands like Japan or Hawaii. Again I apologize for my ignorance

That being said I was not insulting you or making any assumptions regarding your relationship. I was just asking a question. You could have simply replied that you do take her out.

Yes. It is true that women seek attention to some degree but it's not as if men are any different. Women want to feel like men want to have sex with them which is good because men like to have sex. If women did not have an urge to feel attractive and wanted then you guys would never get consensual sex.

The reason I was asking is that it just seems so unreasonable to me to get upset about this kind of thing...

My hubby lets me have all the tanks I want and I let him turn every extra corner in the house to grow produce. Our living room alone looks like a Chile jungle and I don't care because He's happy...I guess our house does not look traditional and our electric bills are high considering the amount of plant lights but I love him and all his eccentrics.

I guess some women are just a little high strung and I cannot understand why someone would want to waste so much time being angry over something that keeps the person they love happy.
 
i think the problem stems from the nature of the hobby. for a lot of us, including me, its more than a hobby, its a passion bordering on obsession. if we could, there would be no space in the house left tankless. women and non-fishlovers tend to find this weird and annoying. i think there's alot more to it than spending too much time and money with our fish.
most of us concentrate on the health of our fish and not so much the asthetics of the aquarium, she does not like.
taking her to a fish store is worse than her taking us to a shoe store. hours are spent doing both but its 80 degrees at 100% humidity in a fish store and there's nothing in there she wants you to buy her.
at the lfs you will rarely if ever ask for her opinion on a specific fish because she most likely has no idea what she was looking at. the species does not like to be left out.:grinno:
filters, airpumps, and splashing are music to your ears when falling asleep, not to hers.
my strategy to keep her happy goes as follows:
1. make tanks as pretty as possible.
2. " " " quite " "
3. avoid taking her to a fish store and do not guilt trip her with the time you spent carrying her purse at the mall, it will backfire.
4. dont let her find out rtc's will eat live rats off the surface :headbang2
5. let her know you want her to share your interest but don't force it on her.
6. if you want a bigger tank, put a rtc or comprable monster in the tank you have, let her name him, feed him, and pet him so that she gets attached. :naughty:
7. if all else fails, get er a trow bucket ;)

sorry for the rant :)
 
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