women vs fish tanks

[knifegill]

After much analysis, my wife and I have reached these conclusions:

She wants me to be able to enjoy my hobby.
She wants my attention all to herself, and fishkeeping takes it away a little.
She wishes she could override her instinct to be a little jealous of my hobby but can't seem to let it go.
She totally understands being into a hobby because she has a few of her own.
So she basically admits she's wrong but can't bring herself to feel another way about it. And we're both okay with that for now.

 

[Red_Belly_Pacu]

The majority of fish keepers are male. It is kind of like a male thing, like keeping reptiles and stuff like that.

 

[mrs.dayak]

Lol...i like how you say 'keeps me out of her hair'.
As for the ecoli73, very smart to get the 240, i think. Will save later discussions and expense when you would have needed to upgrade from the 135. Can you put bumper pads on the edges of a 300?
As for looking at a tank that's uncared for...it's hard enough to look at a tank in development. Such a waste of time and money for the end result to be anything less than stellar.

 

[TheFishJunky]

well...here's the deal imo~ men have tons of hobbies.ask any man around and they'll either tell you they like to do wood projects,keep fish,collect cars,models,trains etc or keep busy in numerous other ways in a hobby aspect.Most women really dont have a hobby at all. They would rather watch t.v. or whatever.So we get bashed for our hobbies since they dont have any.At least that is what an old timer told me and how he broke it down.Personally my wife is in to nothing.She has her 95 t.v. shows that she follows but really has no hobby or collections to speak of. Now I do know a lot of women collect plates,spoons,and those porcelain figures(forget the names) or maybe knit or crochet but for the most part I dont think I have ever been with a woman who has collected anything except maybe candles. Interesting point though with women all being animal lovers yet fish haters for the most part. But for us men don't try to figure out women...you never will.

 

[mrs.dayak]

The majority of fish keepers are male. It is kind of like a male thing, like keeping reptiles and stuff like that.

I want to keep reptiles but dayak doesn't care for them. Want at least just a ball python, since i know the larger ones will become too hard for me to maintain as i age. Want a couple of tarantulas too Ahh well, i'm happy with our current endeavor.

 

[TheFishJunky]

My GF loves the tanks. She won't do any work with them, but loves looking at them. I think the women that do't really like them are the ones worried about:

a) space
b) $$$$

mostly B.

^^^ that about sums it up also.I'd say space and money is 99% the reason and also anything that makes a man happy women are against

 

[bomber]

But fo4r us men don't try to figure out women...you never will.

quote of the year.

 

[USMCtanker]

i just got my wife into it. she new that i enjoyed it and it helped keep me busy after the war. at first she didnt like it bc i was spending to much on something that can just die. so i started to take her to the shops. let her pic a cpl fish out. ask her opinion on what to do with this an that. after a while she wanted to know more and now we can talk for hours on ideas for big tanks. or what fish we should get next. we will make a family car picnic day with the kids an travel up to 4 hours sometimes to see a fish shop or pick a fish up. i think woman do enjoy it and can if u get them involved. even if fishkeeping is ur alone time, get her a tank and setup. see who can raise the best fish or breed the most fry. its worked for me.

 

[Myarbro]

I understand where this is coming from, however, all people, men or women, are different. They will show distaste, or lack of interest for a number of different reasons. For example…

My girlfriend used like that I had the hobby, and would be more than willing to listen to me when I discussed things involving it. She would even help me on tank maintenance and accompany me to the LFS.

I also used to be really into fire performance (fire breathing, fire eating, and fire staff) with her. We were both in a group that traveled to cities around Memphis and performed for paid gigs. I had been into it a lot longer than her and due to numerous reasons, mainly being drama inside the group, I slowly lost interest and backed away. I try my hardest to support her and the rest of the group and will even, on rare occasions, perform. All in all though, it is completely obvious that I don’t care for it anymore.

When this happened, I saw that she didn’t give a **** about my fish keeping hobby anymore. If I mention something about it, she will attempt to change the subject or ask me to not talk about it at all. She won’t even give my tanks anything more than a 1 second glance, even if I have done something big to it. It is a bit disappointing for me. I work really hard at them and she doesn’t care at all.

I know that I backed out of the hobby we shared together, but like I said, I will still support, attend, and on rare occasions perform any gigs they have. I will give her this though, I do sometimes get tired of hearing about it, and even if I don’t say it, it’s visible on my face.

So I suppose it has nothing to do with women, except that there seems to be more men on this forum. And those of us on this forum are more than your casual fish keeper, we go kinda overboard. lol

Oh, and she is also going through a lot of financial trouble recently, and I am not. We don't live together so I am not really obligated to help her out besides the occasional meal or drink. It might bother her because I have all this money that I put into the hobby while she can barely make ends meet.

Sorry for length. Bored at work...

 

[Laticauda]

Well, I've had herps (snakes) since before I met my husband. We still have them to this day. He helps me with watering them and feeding them, and cleans out the big boa enclosure when Pandora "goes." I'm too short to reach inside, so he does it, he's such a swell guy!

Now I have quite a few fish tanks, and we spend time doing maintenance. It's mainly water changes since we have many large tanks with many large goldfish in them! I love the quality time we spend with eachother doing this, and it seems to keep him occupied, and not "being bored" all the time.

He has his hobbies, he likes to smoke hookah, DJ...but I think he's outgrown these things (thank goodness, I can't tell you how many headaches BOTH of those things give me!) AND HE BURNED HOLES IN MY KITCHEN FLOOR WITH HIS HOOKAH COALS. Originally, I told him "no hookah in the house" because at our old apartment, he burned the carpet. He promised "I'll be careful" so now he is banished to the garage if he wants to smoke...

I guess what I'm saying is...my hobbies are cool, and his are dumb. lol