women vs fish tanks

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Laticauda;4784294; said:
Well, I've had herps (snakes) since before I met my husband. We still have them to this day. He helps me with watering them and feeding them, and cleans out the big boa enclosure when Pandora "goes." I'm too short to reach inside, so he does it, he's such a swell guy!

Now I have quite a few fish tanks, and we spend time doing maintenance. It's mainly water changes since we have many large tanks with many large goldfish in them! I love the quality time we spend with eachother doing this, and it seems to keep him occupied, and not "being bored" all the time.

He has his hobbies, he likes to smoke hookah, DJ...but I think he's outgrown these things (thank goodness, I can't tell you how many headaches BOTH of those things give me!) AND HE BURNED HOLES IN MY KITCHEN FLOOR WITH HIS HOOKAH COALS. :angryfire Originally, I told him "no hookah in the house" because at our old apartment, he burned the carpet. He promised "I'll be careful" so now he is banished to the garage if he wants to smoke...

I guess what I'm saying is...my hobbies are cool, and his are dumb. lol
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How very interesting. My girl i just wrote about is also into DJ'n and Hookah. She is also, like I said, a huge fire performer, and also a professional belly dancer. She pursues these interests to the fullest extent and is broke because of it. All of this with a 3 day a week bartending job when she has a bachelors in Neuroscience, and a Masters in Biology... Makes little sense to me but oh well... :screwy:
 
Raetak;4783679; said:
I got kinda offended when my ex came over and totally ignored my fish aquariums :( I was a little sad she didn't care for em. Future girlfriend must LOVE fishies!
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I understand you
 
Fish keeping is a hobby. Yes my fish are pets too but mainly its a hobby. Some people get it other don't. I don't think it has anything to do with fish in the end. You spend money and time on hobbys.

For some reason men seem to be more into this hobby then women and i think its because of all the dirty work that some women don't think. I grow up playing in mashes and getting muddy so I dont mind cleaning out filters and stuff.

So lots of time it comes down to getting extra space and money for your hobby. One that you do that your partner does not get the same enjoyment out of.
 
My wife doesn't care that I keep fish. She knows I enjoy the hobby. Its just when you spend all your time looking at them messing with them. Spending your weekends going to fish stores looking at more of them. That's when they start to feel you love your fish more then them. I spend a lot of time just looking at my fish. My wife just doesn't get it LOL. She often asked what am I looking at?
 
MyGiants;4784507; said:
My wife doesn't care that I keep fish. She knows I enjoy the hobby. Its just when you spend all your time looking at them messing with them. Spending your weekends going to fish stores looking at more of them. That's when they start to feel you love your fish more then them. I spend a lot of time just looking at my fish. My wife just doesn't get it LOL. She often asked what am I looking at?
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I agree with this post.
 
Well, I'll call her my 'Ex' being that she is my ex-wife and currenty my ex-girlfriend/bff (not sure which), and I know she is not necessarily representtive of all women, but this is my experience re hobbies and wives/girlfriends/bff's.
When we were married living in the UK she thought it would be nice if we joined a pottery (ceramics) class, we did and actually went back to do a second when the first one finished and then when we came back to the States we joined another. Unfortunately it turned out I was pretty good at pottery (a natural a one of the instructors said) but she was not. After time I stopped enjoying the things I made cos, although she would always compliment me on tem she would alo add how bad her stuff looked compared with mine. That was our only venture into a joint hobby but we did attend weight watchers together (not a hobby) that went badly cos I would always loose more than her each week.
A couple of years after we split up and got divorced, we wre the friendliest we'd ever been and staed living together again. I got back into RC aircraft (somethig I'd one before we met) but she hated that I spent so much time alone building planes etc. After she bought a house and we moved into it togeher she said "no plane building in the garage, it makes too much dust and mess", so that hobby died out.
I bought my house a couple of miles away from hers and last year I came into some money and started keeping fish, again she did not like that I spent more time "alone with my fish" instead of visiting her, I have 6 tanks running, biggest is a 46g bowfront and to her that many means 'obsessed'.
Currently not together at all cos I wouldn't stay a her house when there was a snowstorm coming (I tried not to say it but couldn't help pointing out that if I lost power then the fish would die if I wan't there).

So in conclusion, women like attention...........ALL your attention. Women like to 'do stuff' with their men............as long as you are no good at it and they are. Women like to be treated as the independent beings they are.............unless they feel like being helpless in which case you better don your armour and go riding over on your white horse.

And lastly, they will be all of these things and none of these things depending on the time/day/year/season/weather/what they had for lunch/what their friend had for lunch/what their friends hubby does/what their friends hubby doesn't do/whether there's an 'r' in the month/whether there isn't an 'r' in the month.....................the answer?...............NEVER ask the question!
 
SCGeordie;4784588; said:
And lastly, they will be all of these things and none of these things depending on the time/day/year/season/weather/what they had for lunch/what their friend had for lunch/what their friends hubby does/what their friends hubby doesn't do/whether there's an 'r' in the month/whether there isn't an 'r' in the month.....................the answer?...............NEVER ask the question!
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Priceless. I will have to agree with some of this. When I was with my ex fiance living in Tampa, we shared a house with another couple. Both myself and the guy would leave for work. My girl would be in a great mood and happy with me. His girl could be upset with him. When we were away at work, the others girl would probably start the typical man bashing pow wow and next thing I know, I come home to an irritated and angry girl just because she had listened to the other ***** about her man all day. When women band together when one is upset with her man, all of the other womens men had better watch out!

NOT trying to bash women, it's just the usual "Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars" thing.
 
My wife doesn't like my polys, knife fish, etc. so I have a 55g set up with platys, mollies, etc. to keep her happy.

She like to tell people she doesnt mind my fishkeeping because it keeps me from playing WoW.
 
Sweetness, nighttouch! You win with keeping her happy with the mollies, especially if you need to feed your monsters...ready supply of food right there :P She'll never miss one or 5 of them :D
 
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