"This is god punishing you for your sins". Just imagine this. If god's real then he probably took a nap and that's why so much sh*t is going on in the world. He's asleep and doesn't know it yet lol.
I don't even know what to title this. (rant/vent)
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Dude this is sad to hear 
I made it very clear to my family that NOBODY touches my tanks without my permission. I'll let my siblings feed the fish with my supervision but otherwise I do everything myself, that was a gorgeous betta and I'm sorry to hear about this
I've lost fish to stupid things before. I lost all the corydoras I got for my birthday for unexplainable reasons within a week of my birthday, and one of my snakeskin gouramis in my 70. Also for my birthday. I've lost almost all of my shrimp shipment and all of the rasboras within a few days of buying them, probably due to freight stress.
It sucks to hear how your mother is, best tell her to never move fish without your permission.
Hope the situation improves,
Hendré.
I made it very clear to my family that NOBODY touches my tanks without my permission. I'll let my siblings feed the fish with my supervision but otherwise I do everything myself, that was a gorgeous betta and I'm sorry to hear about this
I've lost fish to stupid things before. I lost all the corydoras I got for my birthday for unexplainable reasons within a week of my birthday, and one of my snakeskin gouramis in my 70. Also for my birthday. I've lost almost all of my shrimp shipment and all of the rasboras within a few days of buying them, probably due to freight stress.
It sucks to hear how your mother is, best tell her to never move fish without your permission.
Hope the situation improves,
Hendré.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Moon reminds me of a CT betta I had named Bruce - beautiful fish with lots of personality. RIP Moon.
With regards to your mum: if she's Christian jump on google and find every bible passage that relates to your situation, use these when discussing your fish with her - don't forget the commandment of honoring your mother and father, be respectful in your conversations with her. Listen to her and try to see it as she sees it.
Do a bit of research on stunting fish and send her links if you think she'd be willing to learn.
When it comes to keeping fish in a small tank try comparing it with keeping a St Bernard puppy in a 2' cube, or those poor kids in third world countries that are basically kept in cages - neither is healthy.
I don't know how old you are but I'm guessing you're under 14. If you try approaching her in an adult way "hey mum, can we please talk, something's really upsetting me with our relationship..." or something along those lines, she should be more open to conversation - keep your cool and don't let your emotions get the better of you.
Explain calmly how you feel, listen to her and hear her out - not always easy I know, but it shows her the level of respect that she deserves and sets an example for how she should respond.
All you can do is try, and if nothing comes of it just give her your tanks, tell her she can look after them because you can't with her interfering and get back into the hobby once you've moved out.
Good luck and I hope your mum comes around. Again, my condolences for Moon, may he rest peacefully.
With regards to your mum: if she's Christian jump on google and find every bible passage that relates to your situation, use these when discussing your fish with her - don't forget the commandment of honoring your mother and father, be respectful in your conversations with her. Listen to her and try to see it as she sees it.
Do a bit of research on stunting fish and send her links if you think she'd be willing to learn.
When it comes to keeping fish in a small tank try comparing it with keeping a St Bernard puppy in a 2' cube, or those poor kids in third world countries that are basically kept in cages - neither is healthy.
I don't know how old you are but I'm guessing you're under 14. If you try approaching her in an adult way "hey mum, can we please talk, something's really upsetting me with our relationship..." or something along those lines, she should be more open to conversation - keep your cool and don't let your emotions get the better of you.
Explain calmly how you feel, listen to her and hear her out - not always easy I know, but it shows her the level of respect that she deserves and sets an example for how she should respond.
All you can do is try, and if nothing comes of it just give her your tanks, tell her she can look after them because you can't with her interfering and get back into the hobby once you've moved out.
Good luck and I hope your mum comes around. Again, my condolences for Moon, may he rest peacefully.
'Experts' pull fish out of water all the time to take pictures and measure fish. There's a common myth around that won't die that says fish only grow to the size of the tank they are in.
Hello; This is poor advice to give for dealing with a parent. If you live long enough you will find that your parents are among the few people you can sort of depend on. It seems clear from this and the post about tryin to cut a tree down on your own house that you do not get along with family. Not sure how old you are but the sort of things you suggest would not fly if you lived in my home.
To the OP, I suggest you do not pay much attention to such advice. In a few years you can move out and then ep tanks any way you wish.
I'm sorry skj but I view the world differently then you. Once you let people know they can walk over you they won't stop so it's better to put a stop to it as soon as it happens. Let's agree to disagree.
Hello; Not good enough when a person is still living under the roof of a parent. Fine when you get out on your own. I live that way myself now and have for decades. That you appear to get away with such tactics with your mother does not make it the right thing to do.
Can I figure she puts food in your ungrateful mouth and gives you a place to sleep and that sort of thing? From your posts it appears you are hateful and sneaky.
