Am I the only one?

[ctoychik]

In summary, no kids here. I never felt that i need a junior. There is no need to prove this point by going out and having a vasectomy.

Having children is a burden financially to say the least (wait till a junior want a BENZ) A potential for disaster if they grow-out wrong. Lately, i have been observing kids becoming more and more spoilt - overhere and everywhere else. That said, there are still some very good parents around (have also seen those).

 

[pcfriedrich]

I don't want kids now. I don't want to be anywhere around them. I guess I'm mature enough to know that a lot can change over time, so I'm not gonna say that I will never want kids.

reproduction is THE biological drive (besides survival, but of course the only biological reason for an individual to survive at all is so it can eventually reproduce). chances are, everyone wants kids eventually, and most people who never have them regret it at some point. this isn't a blanket statement, of course there are exceptions.

 

[rallysman]

I can't figure out why some people can't accept the fact that someone else doesn't want kids, so I stopped trying. I'd also like people who can't figure out why I don't want any to stop trying to convince me otherwise.

 

[jcardona1]

 

[pcfriedrich]

all I'm saying is that things change. when I was 7, I wanted to be a garbage man when I grew up. when I was 25, I knew I'd never want kids. now I'm 32, and realize that someday, when I can better afford it and find a girl who would make a decent wife and mother, it might be pretty cool. the word "never" just kind of bothers me, thats all. nobody knows what tomorrow might bring.

If you didn't want discussion, then why'd you start this thread? you just wanted to hear from a bunch of other guys saying "you go boy, never have kids. kids are dumb, expensive and messy, anyway"?

 

[rallysman]

all I'm saying is that things change. when I was 7, I wanted to be a garbage man when I grew up. when I was 25, I knew I'd never want kids. now I'm 32, and realize that someday it might be pretty cool.

If you didn't want discussion, then why'd you start this thread? you just wanted to hear from a bunch of other guys saying "you go boy, never have kids. kids are dumb, expensive and messy, anyway"?

I wasn't responding to you. I was responding the the thread as a whole.

Really, I started the thread to see if I really was the only one. It seems like it lol.

I guess while we're on it one of my favorites is "It's different when it's your own". I quote that all the time when I see the horrible parents on the evening news. Maybe if they weren't expected to have kids they wouldn't have felt obligated to do so in the first place.

 

[bigspizz]

+1....Someone who does not want a kid, will not miss the things, that those of us who DO want kids, at all....I do not drink Beer...I do not envy or miss being drunk, please do not try to talk me into having one...I will not...Kthxbye....

 

[Red Devil]

I can't figure out why some people can't accept the fact that someone else doesn't want kids, so I stopped trying. I'd also like people who can't figure out why I don't want any to stop trying to convince me otherwise.

Levi you know as well as i do all people are not the same.. we have all different family unbringing.. sometimes what happens to someone when they are young stays with them for a life time and actually imprints the way they view life.. so that being said... their are some people who are afraid to have children,...fear loving something so much that they cannot take a chance to lose it.. some just cannot finacially raise a child..and even if they were finacially okay do not want to devote the time and energy.. so many different reasons and to me they are all valid ones... and no body's business why you feel this way... but one thing is for sure..if you do not want children then it is so much better if you do not have them... they must be welcomed or they will suffer ...and so will you...

 

[pcfriedrich]

If it was that easy I wouldn't be making this thread. Doctors have a lot to do with the "You're to young" BS. They'd much rather have you spit one out that they have to support on welfare just to be sure that they're covered in case of a lawsuit.

you can't find a doctor to give you a vasectomy? you've been looking? how many doctors have you been to?

I've heard of doctors refusing vasectomy on 18 year olds. I've also heard of doctors performing vasectomy on 18 year olds. your profile says you're 26, I cant believe you can't find a doc that will perform the procedure.

 

[rallysman]

Levi you know as well as i do all people are not the same.. we have all different family unbringing.. sometimes what happens to someone when they are young stays with them for a life time and actually imprints the way they view life.. so that being said... their are some people who are afraid to have children,...fear loving something so much that they cannot take a chance to lose it.. some just cannot finacially raise a child..and even if they were finacially okay do not want to devote the time and energy.. so many different reasons and to me they are all valid ones... and no body's business why you feel this way... but one thing is for sure..if you do not want children then it is so much better if you do not have them... they must be welcomed or they will suffer ...and so will you...

Thanks Liz. I wish everyone saw it that way and didn't second guess someone else just because they may have second guessed themselves.

What bothers me more is financially unstable (or more commonly financially irresponsible) people who have kids anyway, then expect me to feel sorry for them. I feel sorry for the kid, not them. That's a whole different topic though, I'll quit on that one. LOL.