fish tank vandalism

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I dont know what to tell you man but for me my wife knows that the tanks are off limits to her for the sole purpose of when I got my 180gl acrylic tank in the house she went over and tryed to clean it with a paper towel and windex lets just say that was not a good day for the both of us:irked:
 
I honestly can't believe this is such a big deal.

Either she was trying do something sweet by putting something she thought you'd like somewhere she knew you'd see it a lot, or she's trying to get some attention out of you.

There's no battle to pick. If it was something sweet, APPRECIATE IT. If it was a vie for attention, then you've neglected the one person you vowed to love and spend the rest of your life with.

Leave the stickers up until the day after and don't be so damned territorial. Ever heard the phrase "What's mine is ours"? It works, trust me. My wife and I have been together 15 years and married 10; there is no "mine" in our house.
 
Not sure if I should comment on this thread, see, I'm divorced, have been for a few years now. My ex lives about 3 miles away and up untill I bought my house we lived in the same house having both moved to SC a couple of years after the div (long story but we never broke off communication completely and still 'cared for each other' a lot).
Anyway, when I got into fish keeping last year she started with the "your obsessed" and "you like your fish more than me" stuff, my answer we're divorced, we each have our own lives and our own houses.
Tonight we're expecting a snowstorm (most of you probably had this one today already) and for upstate SC that means one thing - no going to work tomorrow and a strong possibility of power outages. She wanted me to go stay at her house I said no I need to be here if the power goes out, and in any case, if the roads are not driveable she will work from home, me, if I don't get into work I don't get paid. She went through her whole repertoire : "you can go to work from here", "what can you do anyway if the power goes out", "you're obsessed", "you like your fsih more than me" etc etc. So, we're not talking, again, and maybe by the end of the week she'll call and tell me how much I hurt her and I'll apologise like the wimp I am, cos I don't want yet another argument!
My advice to the OP, it's really your call, but be prepared to suffer the consequences if you take them down before Feb 15th (my birthday by the way :) ) and she takes it as a personal insult, it's not the big fights that end a marriage, it's the constant little ones that cause the most damage.

ps, it better be a bloody good snowstorm!
 
SCGeordie;4778300; said:
Not sure if I should comment on this thread, see, I'm divorced, have been for a few years now. My ex lives about 3 miles away and up untill I bought my house we lived in the same house having both moved to SC a couple of years after the div (long story but we never broke off communication completely and still 'cared for each other' a lot).
Anyway, when I got into fish keeping last year she started with the "your obsessed" and "you like your fish more than me" stuff, my answer we're divorced, we each have our own lives and our own houses.
Tonight we're expecting a snowstorm (most of you probably had this one today already) and for upstate SC that means one thing - no going to work tomorrow and a strong possibility of power outages. She wanted me to go stay at her house I said no I need to be here if the power goes out, and in any case, if the roads are not driveable she will work from home, me, if I don't get into work I don't get paid. She went through her whole repertoire : "you can go to work from here", "what can you do anyway if the power goes out", "you're obsessed", "you like your fsih more than me" etc etc. So, we're not talking, again, and maybe by the end of the week she'll call and tell me how much I hurt her and I'll apologise like the wimp I am, cos I don't want yet another argument!
My advice to the OP, it's really your call, but be prepared to suffer the consequences if you take them down before Feb 15th (my birthday by the way :) ) and she takes it as a personal insult, it's not the big fights that end a marriage, it's the constant little ones that cause the most damage.

ps, it better be a bloody good snowstorm!
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wow.......I've seen plenty of guys pushed around by their wives, but I never even heard of someone controled by his ex wife :WHOA:. ..what you just described it's called emotional abuse ....She's your EX for a reason man, just ignore her and move on ....I'm sure there's someone out there that can really make you happy
...sorry for the derail.
back on track....since the OP used the word "vandalism" obviously it's a big deal to him and IMO no one, male or female, should be afraid to express their opinion in a relationship....
 
I initially read this as a light-hearted story about a man, his fish, and his thoughtful wife. I never truly considered this as a serious debate or problem. My wife respects my fish and tanks because she respects me. She actually likes fish herself, just not into the hobby as much as I am. If she does something to offend me or vice versa, we talk about it and solve it. We respect each other. We put each other's needs above our own. I still think this is just a funny story with no real animosity intended by either spouse. Some times this site can be extrememly harsh about some of the most common or simple things. Enjoy the company of your wife and be thankful that you have a wife on Valentines. The fish and the silly stickers should be another funny memory to laugh about with your wife many, many years from now.
 
Well I have been divorced for a long time, just me and the kids for the last 7 years, so I do what I want with the house and fish. Having said that, I still remember that if "momma ain't happy ain't nobody happy".
 
this has become to relationship oriented lol just say it scares your fish or some other bs and put the decorations on a window or something
 
The whole thing is silly. Are the stickers covering the whole tank? Does it bother you that much that she was thinking of you? If I came home and there was stuff all over my tank..... Yeah I would be pissed.... Then I would have to stand back and think how many other people get nothing. I never get anything.... Just be thankful. Then tell her you have to remove it cause of the glue.
 
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