help me clear my head please

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señor_pescados_felices

señor_pescados_felices

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Some people may think this is the last place something like this needs to be discussed but the truth of the matter is I work two full time jobs and two part time jobs and don't have very many really close friends to talk to about this kind of stuff.

Also in my experience the collective group of MFK members have more helpful input than any best friend and are definately better than any counselor.

I just found out last night that my girl of 6 years and wife of 2 has been cheating on me. She didn't have anything to say for herself whatsoever other than "I was going to tell you".....nothing at all.

Today she leaves for work still without a single word between us and leaves me here in silence trying to decide if I need to just stay calm and pack my crap and leave or go on a full out revenge rampage. First thing I did when I woke up was break her favorite CD and that felt good, if somewhat immature.

Right now my heart is beating a mile a minute and all I want to do is go around destroying everything that ever mattered to her but know inside that that's not the morally correct course of action.

Her name is on the lease not mine so if it comes down to us separating it is up to me to do the walking, but in CA if you have been living somewhere for a certain period of time it is considered your residence and the only way to get you out is to take you to court, and then you have 3 months to get out....I'm thinking about sticking around free of charge for a bit and just stomping around the house acting like an all around prick but inside I also know that's not the best decision.

What do I do? With 40k members I know several have been in the same boat as me...how did you handle it?

Sorry for the overly lengthy rant and I thank all of MFK for being there to talk to whenever I feel like posting my personal crap in the lounge,LOL
 
If the woman is cheating you gotta go bro, most men cant get over the things they put through in there head over and over again , Do it once she will do it again , breaking things just sounds immature and only temp fix ... You can show she cheated in court and win ,, but that **** doesnt matter its just time to go , there are alot of fish in the sea so to speak , i couldnt live with it and you shouldnt have to , **** her man move on with your life and find a good girl to love you and only you that will do for you and do any thing to make YOU happy.. to many girls in the wold 4:1 or something like that.
 
Sorry to here this,I know this pain.

Like Master Po said to Kwai Chang Caine,its time for you to go.
 
Thanks bro.

Makes me not want to try relationships anymore, I was sure she was the one...I mean we had been together for 6 years with very few problems. Just last night I was coming home thinking our relationship was great and whatnot.

Your right, as I mentioned I know breaking things is immature but anybody who has been in the situation has got to admit it is one of the first things you want to do.

Moving my fish tank is going to be a pain in the ass, I don't even know anybody with a trailer right now. :nilly:
 
señor_pescados_felices;3466586; said:
Some people may think this is the last place something like this needs to be discussed but the truth of the matter is I work two full time jobs and two part time jobs and don't have very many really close friends to talk to about this kind of stuff.

Also in my experience the collective group of MFK members have more helpful input than any best friend and are definately better than any counselor.

I just found out last night that my girl of 6 years and wife of 2 has been cheating on me. She didn't have anything to say for herself whatsoever other than "I was going to tell you".....nothing at all.

Today she leaves for work still without a single word between us and leaves me here in silence trying to decide if I need to just stay calm and pack my crap and leave or go on a full out revenge rampage. First thing I did when I woke up was break her favorite CD and that felt good, if somewhat immature.

Right now my heart is beating a mile a minute and all I want to do is go around destroying everything that ever mattered to her but know inside that that's not the morally correct course of action.

Her name is on the lease not mine so if it comes down to us separating it is up to me to do the walking, but in CA if you have been living somewhere for a certain period of time it is considered your residence and the only way to get you out is to take you to court, and then you have 3 months to get out....I'm thinking about sticking around free of charge for a bit and just stomping around the house acting like an all around prick but inside I also know that's not the best decision.

What do I do? With 40k members I know several have been in the same boat as me...how did you handle it?

Sorry for the overly lengthy rant and I thank all of MFK for being there to talk to whenever I feel like posting my personal crap in the lounge,LOL
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i know how you feel. i've been in the same situation. once a cheat, always a cheat. it's never going to be the same again. if you do manage to get back together...there will always be doubts. there will always be suspicion. do yourself a favour and get away from her ASAP. she is not worth it.
 
im really sorry to hear this happened to you. it seems by her reaction like she doesnt care one way or another what really happens. did she express wanting to stay together? or cry? or be at least A LITTLE remorseful? i just dont get people like that.

if i were you, i think you two need to sit down and figure out whether you BOTH want to continue this relationship and move past this.. if not, please just get the heck out. if it were me, i would sit down and try to talk with my hubby, but if i knew he didnt give a crap i would find a friend to move in with for a bit til i find a place of my own.. there is no reason to stay in that toxic environment and be with someone who doesnt even care.

we are all here to listen and try to help you along-this just sucks.
 
Thank you for the kind words.

I have this saying that everything comes to an end sooner or later, its just that I try to end everything on a good note before its too late to be ended on a good note you know?

Is like, I always keep in mind the fact that anything could end at anytime, but I really would have preferred going our separate ways on peaceful terms and possibly being friends in the future. 6 years is a long time to invest in anything only to end it not only abruptly but on bad terms.

I just never thought that I would see the day that I could look into her big brown eyes and think to myself "I really never want to see this person again for as long as I live."
 
navygirl76;3466671; said:
did she express wanting to stay together? or cry? or be at least A LITTLE remorseful?
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Nope she didn't say much other than that she was planning to tell me. She also tried to pull some crap about me telling her I didnt love her anymore when all I said was that our relationship just wasn't the same as it used to be 4 years ago.
 
Hmmmm......two full time jobs and two part time jobs?. There's your solution! get very involved in the activities in those jobs, and you might not even notice she exist and goes playing around. Why even leave?. She probably doesn't even know you still live together;)
 
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