Freshwater Tim;3469491; said:
This is where we differ.
Call me pathetic, but if I have given my everything to someone, I will give them a second chance.
help me clear my head please
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This is where we differ.
Call me pathetic, but if I have given my everything to someone, I will give them a second chance.
rmorse;3469543; said:
I don't think everything was provided or given here. There's more to providing than giving material things. There's the spiritual, the physical, and the emotional stuff too which appears to remain unfilled due to the preoccupation with the superficial stuff.
It appears that there's a gaping hole in the relationship which someone or may be more were just too happy to fill figuratively and literally.
Just my guess.Having not given all, my suggestion is to cut your losses, move on, and find another hole, figuratively speaking, to fill. Just my 2 cents.....
CichlidPharmer;3470768; said:I don't think everything was provided or given here. There's more to providing than giving material things. There's the spiritual, the physical, and the emotional stuff too which appears to remain unfilled due to the preoccupation with the superficial stuff.
It appears that there's a gaping hole in the relationship which someone or may be more were just too happy to fill figuratively and literally.
Having not given all, my suggestion is to cut your losses, move on, and find another hole, figuratively speaking, to fill. Just my 2 cents.....
That's what I was referring to by "my everything". I'm just saying, if I hav already given my heart to someone, they are deserving of a second chance. I don't give my heart to just anyone.
(I'm NOT implying the original poster does, I'm just talking about myself here)
I would walk, I don't have a tolerance for that kind of betrayal. I doubt I could
ever forgive and I know I would never forget. Every time I looked at her I would
think about it, every time she was late I would wonder. No time in my life for that.
Can't tell you what to do, this is something only you can decide. Every individual
is different. You must do what is best for YOU.
ever forgive and I know I would never forget. Every time I looked at her I would
think about it, every time she was late I would wonder. No time in my life for that.
Can't tell you what to do, this is something only you can decide. Every individual
is different. You must do what is best for YOU.
... didnt even read the post above my 1st one, but we both used the same word to describe this situation...
The preponderance of suggestions is to walk.....but the hesitation on what to do is telling.
I subscribe to the theory of making lemonade when you get a lemon. Why not just pimp her. She likes to play, it doesn't seem there's a will to live her, then might as well profit from the situation and maybe there won't be a need to work so many jobs.
Just throwing it out there as an option. Heck, it's a new millenium and earthlings seems to be headed towards a new normal when it comes to relationships.
I subscribe to the theory of making lemonade when you get a lemon. Why not just pimp her. She likes to play, it doesn't seem there's a will to live her, then might as well profit from the situation and maybe there won't be a need to work so many jobs.
Just throwing it out there as an option. Heck, it's a new millenium and earthlings seems to be headed towards a new normal when it comes to relationships.
I'm sorry your going through all that. That is an a really crappy situation you have to deal with.
If your going to leave, I would say that you should definatly try to talk to a lawyer just to see what your options are and what would be the best course to take.
Only you can make the choice to leave or not. If your going to try to stay and work it out than you definatly should go to marriage counsling. I know many guys don't like the whole counsling idea but in this case you probably won't have a chance of making things work with out it. It is possible (although probably really unlikely) to get past cheating have a good relationship but both parties have to be totally on board to do what ever it takes to fix things. Doesn't sound like she would be since she isn't talking to you about it, but you never know what's going through someones head.
Maybe it would be a good idea to stay in a hotel or a friends house for a couple days just to try to get your head on straight.
If your going to leave, I would say that you should definatly try to talk to a lawyer just to see what your options are and what would be the best course to take.
Only you can make the choice to leave or not. If your going to try to stay and work it out than you definatly should go to marriage counsling. I know many guys don't like the whole counsling idea but in this case you probably won't have a chance of making things work with out it. It is possible (although probably really unlikely) to get past cheating have a good relationship but both parties have to be totally on board to do what ever it takes to fix things. Doesn't sound like she would be since she isn't talking to you about it, but you never know what's going through someones head.
Maybe it would be a good idea to stay in a hotel or a friends house for a couple days just to try to get your head on straight.
