need some personal advice

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Your absolutely right. I got so caught up and angry while typing wasn't thinking about grammar and punctuation.

Just called my fiancee we're gonna have a family meeting tonight and the brother is getting a deadline
 
mattholmes320;4514043; said:
Your house, your rules man! If he were working and helping that would be one thing, but he's not. My girlfriend and I actually lived in a shelter so we could get a job and then an apt. It's hard work but it has to be done. Also, if you let this behavior continue, he'll never learn and you'll be doing him a disservice.
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Agreed.
 
Make him get a job at a Local fish store or Chain store. this way he may not make a lot but might be able to get you discounts and a little spending money to find him self a new girlfriend.
 
Tell him something like, if you don't have a job in a month you are out, and you are out for good in 3 months no matter what. Make him get a job, then make him save enough for first and last. Force him to his feet!
 
First off, you must get your fiancée to agree with you that it is time for her brother to move out. You do not want to do anything that will mess up your relationship over this. Like you said, she practically raised him. I’m talking about moving him out and not him paying rent or anything like that. If he starts paying rent, he might think he can stay there forever. Then the 2 of you tell him this was suppose to be short-term arrangement and that he needs to start looking for job so your family can get its space back.

The thing is, if he ain’t got job and no income, I don’t really think your wife will kick him out. Can he really support himself if he is kicked out? And will the sister allow him to have no where to go? You do not want this to get between you and your fiancée, this is her little brother.
 
ar0wan;4514104; said:
If you look to the right on your keyboard
you will find an "ENTER" key.
Using this after each third sentence or so
can help bring one thought to a close and
allow the reader to digest each thought fully
preventing "TL;DR" senerios where they don't
read the full post.

GL
HTH
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Just what he needs,a wiseass when he's asking for advice.:screwy:....There's nothing more important than piece of mind in your own home.Talk with the fiancee about how you feel and perhaps the two of you can even afford to put him up in a small apartment or an efficiency for a short period of time untill he finds work and can pay his way.
 
Between the lines, there are readings.
You will notice that my answer was read clearly by OP.
The solution to his problem is right in front of him.
He knows what to do, he just needs to gather his thoughts,
get everyones buy in, and take the first step.
I've been there, it sucks.
 
Also, don’t make it seem like the sister has to choose between you or her brother. Then there will be rift between you and her over this.
 
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