Getting ready to call a family meeting will let everyone know what happened. Thanks all for those helpful opinions
need some personal advice
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Pharaoh;4514901; said:
This is so true... i've seen so many people in the past not working (even though they are more than capable) just because all the work they get is low paid compared to what they get from welfare...
Either way, best of luck sorting this out...
I always say this the only way some people learn is the hard way and sounds to me that the only way hes going to learn. Give him the boot cause there will come a night where hes going to unplug your tank and no one will notice until all are dead. GL
I know the feeling I am 25 and bought my house when I was 19, so I have worked hard to get/keep what I have. Well my mother-in-law and wife's younger brother moved in temporarily. Well this was two years ago and I can't get rid of them at this point. Mother acts like it's her place and the brother runes my things. Then they complain about my fish tanks and my pet timber-wolf. Then I say "if you don't like it move out", then the fights on with everyone.
The moral of the story is get rid of him now. The longer he stays the harder it will be to get rid of him. I could only argue and fight for so long before it put to much stress on my marriage.
I just bought a second house to rehab to move into. It is easier for me to move out of MY house than to get rid of the in-laws.
The moral of the story is get rid of him now. The longer he stays the harder it will be to get rid of him. I could only argue and fight for so long before it put to much stress on my marriage.
I just bought a second house to rehab to move into. It is easier for me to move out of MY house than to get rid of the in-laws.
ar0wan;4514104; said:
is that a poem?
not being funny but u cant exactly criticise his english then write that lol
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Normally when I read a title that says "I need advice" on the boards, I cringe a little inside. However, this one isn't bad.
I'm anxious to read the results of the family meeting. I am sure you covered that if he's not goign to care for his children, there is no reason to care for him. If I were in your shoes, I would be much more ok with supporting him if you knew that he was out of money each month because he was paying for his kids. Since that isn't the case, you have to turn your back.... IMO.
I'm anxious to read the results of the family meeting. I am sure you covered that if he's not goign to care for his children, there is no reason to care for him. If I were in your shoes, I would be much more ok with supporting him if you knew that he was out of money each month because he was paying for his kids. Since that isn't the case, you have to turn your back.... IMO.
I get the feeling that he has little in the way of concern for others, either your family or his own. He needs the heave ho for his own sake not just your. I know your fiance feels that she's helping but she's only making it worse. Unless he has a reason to get his **** together he won't. Your fiance (as painful as the truth is) is enabling his behavior.
To be honest without the conecrn for other that was drilled into me from birth I'm not sure I'd behave differently. I'd love to sit home all day and play video games, on the upside your tanks would be immaculate, and probably remote controlled.
To be honest without the conecrn for other that was drilled into me from birth I'm not sure I'd behave differently. I'd love to sit home all day and play video games, on the upside your tanks would be immaculate, and probably remote controlled.
Wow wtf. Um not even sure how to respond, though it gives me a MUCH greater appreciation for my wife. I'm really sorry your going through this.
