well prior to calling the family meeting i had a pow wow with my fiancee. though she already knew of my frustrations she admitted she was feeling annoyed with the entire situation with him being there. well i took the advice of several opinions given to me here and presented her with my solution. i told her that i felt he needs 2 deadlines. so by Dec. 1st he has to be employed or he has to go. we live in nyc and there's tons of department stores hiring for the holiday season. the second deadline is march 1st for him to be completely gone. by march he should have enough money saved to get his own apt or room or car that he can live in. i also stated that i didnt need or want any of his money for bills so he can focus on saving. the only thing he needs to buy is his own food my fiancee agreed with everything i said, i finally told her that our decision has to be told to him by her cause thats her brother and i will back her 100%. so off to the family meeting we went...my fiancee delivered the decision to him and he started to cry, apologize and make promises i intervened and told him we wasnt interested in his excuses but wanted to see his actions speak for him. the icing on the cake was when my 2 teenage boys spoke up and told him that they felt he was taking advantage and was annoying them also. feeling the pressure he said he was gonna get a job asap and try to fix his home situation and move back there. so lets see what happens --i will keep you guys posted. thanks a million for all the opinions and responses
