Spanking Linked to Mental Illness, Says Study
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There are a few things about punishing the kid:
1) Never punish the kid because and while you are angry. Calm down, access the situation, then assign punishment
2) No physical harm...To be, paddling the behind is fine, slapping the palm is fine, choking/hands around neck, close fisted punches, etc are not.
3) Be consistent in punishment.
4) Most of time, be private about the punishment. Save the public dress down for special cases.
5) Make sure your kid knows you love him...no matter what happens...and yes, even when you are punishing him.
1) Never punish the kid because and while you are angry. Calm down, access the situation, then assign punishment
2) No physical harm...To be, paddling the behind is fine, slapping the palm is fine, choking/hands around neck, close fisted punches, etc are not.
3) Be consistent in punishment.
4) Most of time, be private about the punishment. Save the public dress down for special cases.
5) Make sure your kid knows you love him...no matter what happens...and yes, even when you are punishing him.
I think it is somewhat true. Abused kids are definitely more likely to grow up messed up. It doesn't even have to be beatings, there are so many different forms of abuse that can screw people up.
Also wanna mention that lack of discipline can be a problem too. I know some people that grew up like this and feel entitled to everything and are somewhat narcissistic.
of course...You will find in general, people who enjoy leather whips do not want their dad or mom be the wielder
Nothing wrong with normal spanking of the butt.
Sure abuse is bad.
I also think spanking above 12 is pointless as the teenager is NOT going to change their mind about things.
Believe it or not I got spanked in high school...yes high school and I can assure you, it didn't change my mind on anything. But I also kept memories of when my parents spanked me and didn't live the crazy life kids do nowdays.
Sure abuse is bad.
I also think spanking above 12 is pointless as the teenager is NOT going to change their mind about things.
Believe it or not I got spanked in high school...yes high school and I can assure you, it didn't change my mind on anything. But I also kept memories of when my parents spanked me and didn't live the crazy life kids do nowdays.
The study covers a much wider range of physical punishment/abuse than just spanking, so it's title & results do not mean much.
Many of these issues that are being attributed to "spanking" are probably more the result of an overall abusive parenting style rather than just the punishment style that the parents chose to utilize. I highly doubt that you will find few, if any, cases of children who had good parents that used spanking as their most severe punishment & still developed a mental illness later in life. For example, I bet that a child whose parents explained to the child why he/she was getting spanked & that this was their final form of punishment after previous softer forms failed would go on to develop a mental illness that was the direct result of that punishment. However, I do think that it's quite possible that a child whose parents just spanked/hit/etc. them for the smallest misdeed or accident or even had no reasoning for it would go on to develop a mental illness as that's just an example of terrible parents. And, yes, I'm saying that you had/are a terrible parent if physical punishment was/is used for the smallest things & a valid explanation was/is never given as to why the "punishment," i.e. abuse, was/is used.
As usual, the establishment goes with too wide yet too specific of a study to "prove" a point & fails to even really do that.
Agreed.
Many of these issues that are being attributed to "spanking" are probably more the result of an overall abusive parenting style rather than just the punishment style that the parents chose to utilize. I highly doubt that you will find few, if any, cases of children who had good parents that used spanking as their most severe punishment & still developed a mental illness later in life. For example, I bet that a child whose parents explained to the child why he/she was getting spanked & that this was their final form of punishment after previous softer forms failed would go on to develop a mental illness that was the direct result of that punishment. However, I do think that it's quite possible that a child whose parents just spanked/hit/etc. them for the smallest misdeed or accident or even had no reasoning for it would go on to develop a mental illness as that's just an example of terrible parents. And, yes, I'm saying that you had/are a terrible parent if physical punishment was/is used for the smallest things & a valid explanation was/is never given as to why the "punishment," i.e. abuse, was/is used.
As usual, the establishment goes with too wide yet too specific of a study to "prove" a point & fails to even really do that.
Agreed.
some of the posters on this thread were obviously spanked too much as young children!
" the child is father to the man"
all experiences you have as a child affect...govern..determine.....the adult you will turn out to be. Especially traumatic experiences, which spanking can be. The abused will usually become an abuser.
" the child is father to the man"
all experiences you have as a child affect...govern..determine.....the adult you will turn out to be. Especially traumatic experiences, which spanking can be. The abused will usually become an abuser.
some of the posters on this thread were obviously spanked too much as young children!
" the child is father to the man"
all experiences you have as a child affect...govern..determine.....the adult you will turn out to be. Especially traumatic experiences, which spanking can be. The abused will usually become an abuser.
How do we explain you then?
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