Why do people get so arsey

[FESHMAN]

I just think regardless of where the person may be from or what language they speak if someone new to fish keeping is asking questions then the more experienced keeper shouldn’t be rude or blunt. I remember when I first started and I found this website I was so enthusiastic and excited to learn about fish keeping I asked all the questions I could as I like to take on information and some people were just point blank rude and spoke as if I was stupid, it’s a good job I’m thick skinned and don’t let words or arsey people to get to me but others that are probably not like me and a little sensitive could have there feelings and confidence dented.

Agree, some "experts" can be aholes to make themselves look bigger perhaps.
I once made a thread on a catfish forum, when my bn pleco's skin was literally rotting away. I have never found any case similar to this online I had 0 nitrates at the time and everything was dialed in. Some self proclaimed expert told me that it wasn't fed well and looked skinny (it wasn't) and the water quality's off, which also wasn't the case. I think it was just one of those rare cases that we don't have the necessary tools to understand in the pet fish world.

This is the guy, he's no longer with us but he sure was cool fish and I still miss having him
This pic was taken early, it got worst to the point of the pectoral bones showing

The moral of the story is, some dude wanted to "help" but didn't have anything of actual value so they tried crapping on me to look better.

 

[RealCrix220]

I wouldn’t say that plec looks skinny and the photo is clear which tells me your water quality was good.
This is the exact reason I wanted people to tell their stories, this is a perfect example
Thank you for sharing

 

[GentleGiantsCichlidKeeper]

A lot of unnecessary hate being thrown around can also be contributed to people not realizing that they are talking to real human beings with feelings and not just the computer screen. It is very easy to get carried away on online forums due to the fact that people are not talking face to face. It is also very hard to convey tone via online messaging which might cause some readers to believe someone's message was nasty, but in reality, the writer just want to help.

This is a part of the reason of my fetish with emojis. When I don't really feel like having a even virtual face-to-face (Video chatting/meetings) conversation, I really convey my emotions through emojis so that some stuff I say, which sounds horrible when said out loud but with an emoji you know i'm saying this thing but you also know i'm saying it lightheartedly. Also, they can be good for letting people know that you've had enough and it's time to stop with the conversation. I recommend users in this forum use emojis more to lighten what they're saying, assure other users know in what tone they're saying it, and to give the same feelings you would portray when having a in-person conversation without being in their location which could be half-way across the world!

 

[FESHMAN]

I wouldn’t say that plec looks skinny and the photo is clear which tells me your water quality was good.
This is the exact reason I wanted people to tell their stories, this is a perfect example
Thank you for sharing

Yeah that dude was special to me, he opened my eyes to catfish behaviour and was a gateway to keeping plecs. There's a story about him I might post in the bottom feeders section

 

[Polypterus_36]

This is a part of the reason of my fetish with emojis. When I don't really feel like having a even virtual face-to-face (Video chatting/meetings) conversation, I really convey my emotions through emojis so that some stuff I say, which sounds horrible when said out loud but with an emoji you know i'm saying this thing but you also know i'm saying it lightheartedly. Also, they can be good for letting people know that you've had enough and it's time to stop with the conversation. I recommend users in this forum use emojis more to lighten what they're saying, assure other users know in what tone they're saying it, and to give the same feelings you would portray when having a in-person conversation without being in their location which could be half-way across the world!

I totally agree with the emojis.

 

[esoxlucius]

See, no need for words....oh crap!

 

[Fishnerd360]

I’m pretty sure this already been said, but arsey people think that having kept fish for a certain amounts of years, makes them an “expert,” causing them to spread claims without evidence. For example, once I showed my fish tank on social media, and some kid was saying I don’t belong in the fish keeping hobby all because there was SOME algae, when I was giving evidence to why it’s fine, he was still trying to come up with claims without backing them up with proper evidence. I’ve eventually showed him what he was doing wrong, and he stopped. Some people just need a “slap in the face” to realize their mistakes.
Noticing this with a lot of younger/new members on here, once they been on the site for longer, they better they become.

 

[Toiletcar]

Wussies lol
Try some car forums if you want real butt hurt...this is not nearly as harsh.

 

[RealCrix220]

I don’t think it’s about butt hurt it’s just about people being rude when someone is looking for advice.
Anyone with half a clue about a car can fix a car can’t they but even the most expert of fish keepers could breed fish or keep fish alive or keep water perimeters correct and there’s not little kids on car forums asking how to change the oil in the new motor they just bought lol

 

[Gourami Swami]

I think people being outright rude is pretty rare here. More often it's people confusing criticism of their fishkeeping with personal attacks. That being said I have definitely seen some rude remarks. But I think they are outweighed by the helpful constructive remarks.
I also think there is a constant influx of new member and the turnover for the new members is pretty quick. So will get a lot of different personalities on the board. There are a host of older members who have been around for years, there are new members who come and go, and there are always new guys (usually 10-15 years old) who are incredibly enthusiastic, and want to post in every thread, advising about things they don't know from firsthand experience, and have spent 5 minutes googling. Have seen countless members like this, usually they don't last but sometimes they do and become great contributors. I try to discourage this sort of posting and correct people when I see it happening because it decreases the quality of info on the site, and we do have a reputation to uphold. I do try to be polite when doing this, but it's hard to be completely inoffensive when telling somebody they don't know what they're talking about.
I also don't think I am a true "expert", though have been on the board for 15 years and worked in the industry for that long as well. I have made mistakes myself when advising, everyone does. But when I do, I am glad that others will challenge or correct me, and don't take it as a personal attack. I think that is where alot of the conflict comes from.