How can she be so hurtfull?! :'(

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I know how you feel, I have cheated on lots of people. Huh?
 
The best adivce that I've ever heard was, "You're young. Don't get in a serious relationship at your age. Just have fun." To be honest...maybe you were too nice to her. Believe it or not (and ladies, you're opinions are welcome), at your age, girls like A-holes. If you ever ask a girl why they broke up with their last boyfriend, 90% of them will tell you, "Because he was an A-hole!" Girls like cocky, arogant, a-holes! I was the nicest guy you could ever meet until I turned 23. Then I realized that nice guys really do finish last! It's a crappy reality, but it's true. DON'T get back with her and DON'T call her. You're still young, so have fun. There's PLENTY of WOMEN out there and there will be PLENTY of time to bang every single one of them j/k...maybe :D
 
I agree that Adam shouldn't risk getting back together with her. In fact, I have a policy of NOT remaining friends with ex-boyfriends. It's just too hard emotionally, and too easy to end up sleeping together again. Which of course leads to more hurt.

I don't think you wasted your time. I'm sure you guys had good times, otherwise you wouldn't have stayed together for 3 years. Besides, it was all a learning experience. You'll come out of this wiser and stronger than ever! That's how I try to think of it.

Having said that, I know it's not going to make it any better for now. It's gonna hurt A LOT before it gets better. There is truly nothing more painful than a broken heart. I'd rather get shot in the stomach sometimes, than have my heart broken.

So, Adam, take care of yourself. Six months from now I'm pretty sure you'll be glad it's over. I'm also glad you're able to find support here (and elsewhere, Myspace etc). We're here for ya, buddy!
 
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yep

take my word for it


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It is awesome to get all the help and thoughts and suport and everyone ideas on what helps and what the best thing to do is, I've gotten a lot of ideas and thoughts, Its been just over a week now. It really stilll hurts, and I still cant stop thinking about it, but I suspect I'm going to be like that a while, its amazing to think she would even think of doing that to throw away a 3 year relationship, and now she's kicking her own ass and wants me back, I just hope she doesnt start "sleeping around" to try to make herself feel "cared about" or better.... I dont know... this is all so messed up.... Thanks so much for all of your thoughts concerns and advice everyone! :)
 
Who cares if she sleeps around. You're done with her, right?;)
 
I like the idea of banging one of her friends. Girls talk, and if you want some measure of revenge, this would help. You could also give her a nice hate f*** for old times sake, then throw her cheating butt to the curb. Either way, you are lucky you weren't married to her. Better to find out now then later.
 
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