its not said in a manner to spite me. its said like "oh hunny the fish is gonna die! i don't want it to die! but i don't care enough to look into what exactly is going on!"........ the other famous line "that fish is pregnant". she has said this about males, juvies, and egg layers.
Significant other and keeping fish
- Thread starter swede
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The main thing is to pay as much attention to the fish as you do to your wife. It can be 50/50, but the second she thinks you are paying more attention to them than to her, its on. She won't be asking if your fish are about to die, she will be asking you how you like them fried!!!
If she has no interest in the fish and it doesn't seem lke she is going to, then next time she says "I think the fish is about to die" reply with "Yeah, I know. I saw it earlier. $50 says it makes it at least 2 more days." A few sarcastic comments and she won't even mention the word fish.
If she has no interest in the fish and it doesn't seem lke she is going to, then next time she says "I think the fish is about to die" reply with "Yeah, I know. I saw it earlier. $50 says it makes it at least 2 more days." A few sarcastic comments and she won't even mention the word fish.
exactly be sarcastic as you can be and she will keep to her self about the fish. Or if all else fails falcon punch
lol I got my mom a 46 gallon bow front for her house and she loves it but she is constantly over stressing things about it. My GF loves my tanks and is always complimenting them so I guess that is a big win there. No surprise when we met she was working at a petco I snagged her with my Venestus cichlids lolswede;3216180; said:My wife has been pretty cool about letting me take over the home with tanks. What bugs me though is she only has enough interest in my fish to worry and stress out over them. she goes up to my tanks and tries to tell me at least every other day about a fish "acting weird" or asking "is he going to die?" when it is perfectly normal behavior. It has gotten old fast, b/c she won't do any research or learn about or listen to me about my fish. Does anyone else have this problem? any tips on how to get her to be motivated to learn about them? She even has her own betta but she doesn't care for it herself, she has me do it.
As a woman I can deffinatly say there are guys out there that I've dated that either hate my tanks or my horses. boils down to attention I think. the other person feels like you love your pets more then them. 
in which case they would be right to an extent but never admit it! My x was constantly coming up with excuses as to why I couldn't have anything larger then a 5 gallon tank. My personal favorite was the floor in the house was to weak, when we had a king sized waterbed in the bedroom 
how dumb did he think I am? He got his way, I moved out.
suffer threw episodes of her favorite show, chances are your fish won't be so important to her. or she'll start asking better questions and makeing more possitive comments. smart ass comments in return will likely get even more smart assed comments back. women are a froggy lot.and negative attention is better then no attention.. we're really not that complicated. 
in which case they would be right to an extent but never admit it! My x was constantly coming up with excuses as to why I couldn't have anything larger then a 5 gallon tank. My personal favorite was the floor in the house was to weak, when we had a king sized waterbed in the bedroom how dumb did he think I am? He got his way, I moved out. suffer threw episodes of her favorite show, chances are your fish won't be so important to her. or she'll start asking better questions and makeing more possitive comments. smart ass comments in return will likely get even more smart assed comments back. women are a froggy lot.
and negative attention is better then no attention.. we're really not that complicated. I have to say I do see where you are coming from - but my bf instead of noticing my fish as the attitude of "its just a fish" while he understands that I love my fish and I get extremely sad when one dies... it still is "just a fish".
I think unless your partner is into fish then its hard to try to get someone excited about it. While my bf supports my hobby, helps me with it and everything - he certainly doesn't share the interest.
My idea of a great Saturday is discovering a new LFS with fish I've never seen before, his side of it "we're doing fishy things". I know he doesn't mean it mean or rude just not his interest.
Why not try getting your wife more into the hobby by making her take care of her own betta. This might get her more generally interested as well.
I think unless your partner is into fish then its hard to try to get someone excited about it. While my bf supports my hobby, helps me with it and everything - he certainly doesn't share the interest.
My idea of a great Saturday is discovering a new LFS with fish I've never seen before, his side of it "we're doing fishy things". I know he doesn't mean it mean or rude just not his interest.
Why not try getting your wife more into the hobby by making her take care of her own betta. This might get her more generally interested as well.
Well at least you get to fill your house with all the tanks you want. And to stock them as you choose. Why sweat the small stuff stop complaining. My wife is not very interested in fish keeping either. But I got the tanks and fish I want. Well maybe not all of them.
swede;3216364; said:
Be thankful... You get your tanks. Its an act of congress to get a 40 breeder. Unforunately Congress wont be reconviening for a few months.
i think i just need to sell it like a business plan more. I need to show her the benefits, explain that it will teach our son about science and responsibility, and that i'm way less likely to get into trouble keeping fish than other activities or hobbies. plus, i've setup 3 tanks (a 55, 15 hex, and a 10) all for 200 bucks! can't complain about that! i do things within the budget and i dont spend money on much other than my fish and their needs
