Am I the only one?

[headbanger_jib]

as my parents i was a real pain in *you know where* when i was a kid *my parents are really patient and caring and loving *
so i don't want a headbanger_jib jr, no way.

and me being the uber selfish one, may be i might end up not having kids at all, but i am too young to decide on all that for sure

 

[Fish Room Plus]

You think you love your Mother?
Or Father?
Or wife?
They are all very distant second compared to the love you will have for your child. The moments that YOUR life will will experience will be unparalled to the memories you will have with your child. Christmas, birthdays, all take on new meanings. Walking, first time they say "dady", "MOmy". Believe me, your heart will swell with these events.

 

[Nic]

you know levi your old lady is gonna come home one of these days and say she is prego... LOL



but i agree... i get it from my family all the time... at this point in my life i dont want a kid...i always tell people after my 37th birthday ill have one.... my friends are either planning on or have kids....id rather live my life some and after i get basically my play toys and what i want in life then ill consider a lil one.... but till then i dont wanna be bothered and most people cant understand that...

 

[Angler]

I have a two yr old daughter. Having her has been hard, and my wife and I have made many sacrifices in our lives for her.

Life would be easier without her, and my wife and I would be able to focus more on ourselves without her.

That being said, life should not be about focusing on yourself. This little girl gives me such great joy, even with the some of the sacrifices I have given and some of the limitations she has given me.

Sometimes you don't know what you have until you have lost it. If you have never had something so beautiful, then you can't begin to fathom what it would be like to have it.

 

[unstopable4700]

WOW! rally this is the most risque thread i have seen from you. i am a father and you can know no love like that of a child looking into your eyes and saying they love you. thats real love. but the wife and i have talked and we are done. as we would like to do our thing once the kids are older, so i do understand that area. unless our daughter asks for a sister again cause hats so hard to say no to.

 

[unstopable4700]

I have kids and would never think of telling friends that have chosen not to have any that they should.My kids are great and I get compliments all the time on how good they are and "how do you do it?"Simple it was a conscious choice made by an over 30 adult.I think people under 30 shouldn't even think about having kids,youre not grown up enough.Think I'm wrong, check the divorce rates.Sure some are but they are in the minority.And just because you hit that age doesn't mean its time.You have to want it and be willing to put the time and effort in to do it right.Not everyone is cut out to be a parent.
You are 100% right Rallysman if you feel its not the right choice for you,dont do it!

that is kinda jumpin the gun there. we are 29. kids never missed an honor roll, the youngest just started school and has competed on state level in baton. wife is stay at home soccer,football, baseball, baton, tumbling, dance mom. and our oldest is 9

 

[Tongue33]

Is there anyone else with the "balls" to step up and say "I DON'T WANT KIDS!"?

I'm tired of people telling me "You'll change your mind" or "I felt the same way" or "It's different if it's your own"

Bottom line: I don't want kids. I never have wanted kids. I'm old enough to know that I don't want a damn thing to do with them.
If you want to have children, then that's fine. I admire your drive. I want nothing to do with them. Leave me out of it.

This is not a thread for current or future parents to tell me what I'm missing, or how much they love, or how life isn't complete blah blah blah.
I'm just curious if I'm the only one that's tired of being second guessed.

Your snipped right bro... As this is the proof of your wants.. that was an excellent decision and speaks volumes about the fact you really are serious about not wanting kids.

I know peopel that really didn't and don't and ALL of them are snipped..

There are allot of people that don't and never will want children.. To them I commend.. And to them that were serious I commend even more as they have already been snipped.

 

[rallysman]

Thanks for everyone who understands where I'm coming from, and a big no thanks to people not reading my first post.

 

[ctoychik]

To not have them, is living like a King, and dying like a dog...

To have them, is living like a dog, and dying like a King.

Not if they put you in home firstthen you still die alone like a dog (or worse).... I wholeheartedly agree on the living like a King if you don' t have any.... then when you die at least you can ensure that you die in comfort

OK this is getting weird

 

[ctoychik]

I have people question me about not having kids occasionally, but my wife gets it all the time... I am an elementary school teacher, I love kids, but I have chosen not to have them.

By the way, Rallysman, if you want a vasectomy it is your right to get it. If your doctor won't do it, get a new doctor!

From what i hear, in France you can not have a vasectomy ... a law against self mutilation from Napoleonic Era... of course one can cross to UK for it